Dr. Jess Sayin:Web-esteem Part 1: The Problem

 Have you ever been out to eat with a group and no one is talking to each other? Everyone has their phones looking down and not paying attention to each other, yet they planned the meal time together? Sadly, it is a common thing amongst these young whipper snappers, it is a cell phone craze we feel we have to stay connected!   Have you ever been in a room with people that are chatting and enjoying each others company and there's one person that is so unengaged and jess dead ass silent? We've all been guilty of laughing at our cell phones before, but this friend jess isn't social EVER---and laughs at no human jokes made...but constantly laughs at things online? We are all guilty of being anti-social at times but when people are out and talking to one another most will usually put the phone away! So lets jess say you hop on twitter for a brief moment to see that "boring bae girl bae Bo-shinka-shay"  or "you aint got no job man Tommy" has a twitter, instagram, and facebook that is POPPIN'...They are tweeting and reporting scene by scene of the event like they are having so much fun:"Girl talk with my girls"(@ShinkaShay_FINEWINE) "Poppin' bottles and the chicks in here is wild" -(@Im_TommyMAN) not only is she quiet the whole time, ain't got no job Tommy hasn't put a wooden nickel for the "bottles" he is tweeting about...[SMH]

 --This...Ladies and Gents is a terrible case of Web-esteem: poppin on social media but losing in real life social skills. Attention! Web-esteem is contagious. It is caught by those who live to please their "followers" or "friends" on social sites. Dr. Jess Sayin' is on the matter, I've been doing research on this people, studying the symptoms of Web-esteem which are very easy to recognize
         Many of us that are in the lab shout out to my group chat, [we] have given you fakers a name: Decepticons! Decepticons are people that  "think" they have mastered being "real" by portraying a certain image on social media. Their mission is to reach the masses and folks that are normally out of their league. Decepticons give the people what they "think" we want to see and by golly goodness---this is what makes them deceptive...Decepticons! Many are wondering, how do we know the truth about these "alleged decepticons" BECAUSE WE KNOW THEM IN REAL LIFE before there was a Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook! [Jess keepin' it real]

Do You Know Someone In Crisis?
Do you know someone that lacks real life social skills? Does this person not interact when in large groups? Are they jess as funny lookin' as their tweets?....Does this person speak in acronyms when they talk ? (LOL, LMAO, LMS, BOL,LBVS,SMH,SMDH,SMMFH)---If you have answered yes or you may think you've caught web-esteem, please--It is time for an intervention: It is a very viral disease get you some real life business as soon as possible so you can then be the person that puts your WHOLE life on the internet [I'm Jess Playin] hahaha.

The Cure: On the next episode of: Jess Sayin: "Dr. Jess, I'm a Decepticon...help!"---Have no fear Jess Sayin' is here!

---Until Next Time.....

I bet a lot of you are like...is this BLOGGER serious? YES. I. AM. Ask anybody, I'm poppin in real life too (toots own horn --toot toot!) But hey, what do I know don't forget to subscribe to the blog----I'm Jess Sayin'!

Live your life: Jess my theory on infidelity

If you are going to cheat on your significant other, why be together? The aged old question that no one can  truly answer. Infidelity, cheating, and creeping; the same word used to define the same action, cheating. Many people think women write and talk about this because we are bitter. No boo boo, I'm Jess giving the people what they've asked for.  Jess read it and agree [or disagree]. Divorce has become too common, no one is afraid to break up anymore.The number 1 reason for divorce is infidelity. Why do we cheat on each other? Not only in boyfriend/girlfriend situations but in marriages, because they haven't "lived" yet. My theory on the matter, if you've never "lived" you are more likely to cheat. Now I'm not saying everyone cheats on their spouse or their boo thangs, but after I sat down to really think about "the why" and asking people what made them ready to settle down the consensus was that they had been there and done that. I also spoke to a married man and he told me :"I lived in the streets, been a hoe, and done all my dirt before settling down"...It really makes a difference. People dip outside of the relationship because they never had the opportunity to "live".

Here is an example, jess take these college sweethearts, while in college they've done everything together. Broke up maybe over something petty while in school but everyone knew they would get married and they did. They have their first child, things were great. Wife gains some weight but snaps right back. Husband is making that cash, things were still great. Well wife is preggo again. Husband gets concerned, wife is getting less attractive and starting to complain more. He goes to work and sees these fine ass temps and other employees, of course it sounds like a lifetime movie right?---but this shit happens in real life! He cheats because he never got it out of his system.The same for the wife, she is working and at home with two damn kids and some of those college interns thinks she is too fine. She cheats too because she never got it out her system either. If both had "lived" prior to getting married, there wouldn't be any thoughts of cheating because they would have gotten it out their system. People always want to talk shit about folks for being in the club and partying, but if you never do that how will you be prepared for the one when it is actually time to settle down? By no means am I saying be 30 in the club but find that balance.

People cheat because they want to. Temptation is real; however, once you meet the person for you, NO ONE can ever distract you!---Jess Sayin
I don't condone the act of cheating, or staying with someone that necessarily KEEPS cheating on you. Giving someone a second and third chance is fair--but think about if you cheated would this person  constantly forgive you? Cheating isn't a fair game. It never will be. When dating, stop asking each other have you cheated before because more than likely YOU HAVE. Secondly, let the person disappoint you first stop asking age old questions about their past after all; you are trying to build something new that you've never done before, so don't worry about what he did to Shinka-Shay. Let Pookie show you something different.
Whether any of you want to admit it or not, you've all had a hoe moment and if you haven't, it is headed to a life near you. If you never got that chance to have "hoe moment" you'll mess around and have that hoe moment when you need to have that husband/wife moment.---I'm not married, I'm Jess Sayin'...The facts are the #1 reason for divorce is infidelity and this is my theory on why it happens since no one else can seem to provide insight...but hey, what do I know....I'm Jess Sayin'!