Live your life: Jess my theory on infidelity

If you are going to cheat on your significant other, why be together? The aged old question that no one can  truly answer. Infidelity, cheating, and creeping; the same word used to define the same action, cheating. Many people think women write and talk about this because we are bitter. No boo boo, I'm Jess giving the people what they've asked for.  Jess read it and agree [or disagree]. Divorce has become too common, no one is afraid to break up anymore.The number 1 reason for divorce is infidelity. Why do we cheat on each other? Not only in boyfriend/girlfriend situations but in marriages, because they haven't "lived" yet. My theory on the matter, if you've never "lived" you are more likely to cheat. Now I'm not saying everyone cheats on their spouse or their boo thangs, but after I sat down to really think about "the why" and asking people what made them ready to settle down the consensus was that they had been there and done that. I also spoke to a married man and he told me :"I lived in the streets, been a hoe, and done all my dirt before settling down"...It really makes a difference. People dip outside of the relationship because they never had the opportunity to "live".

Here is an example, jess take these college sweethearts, while in college they've done everything together. Broke up maybe over something petty while in school but everyone knew they would get married and they did. They have their first child, things were great. Wife gains some weight but snaps right back. Husband is making that cash, things were still great. Well wife is preggo again. Husband gets concerned, wife is getting less attractive and starting to complain more. He goes to work and sees these fine ass temps and other employees, of course it sounds like a lifetime movie right?---but this shit happens in real life! He cheats because he never got it out of his system.The same for the wife, she is working and at home with two damn kids and some of those college interns thinks she is too fine. She cheats too because she never got it out her system either. If both had "lived" prior to getting married, there wouldn't be any thoughts of cheating because they would have gotten it out their system. People always want to talk shit about folks for being in the club and partying, but if you never do that how will you be prepared for the one when it is actually time to settle down? By no means am I saying be 30 in the club but find that balance.

People cheat because they want to. Temptation is real; however, once you meet the person for you, NO ONE can ever distract you!---Jess Sayin
I don't condone the act of cheating, or staying with someone that necessarily KEEPS cheating on you. Giving someone a second and third chance is fair--but think about if you cheated would this person  constantly forgive you? Cheating isn't a fair game. It never will be. When dating, stop asking each other have you cheated before because more than likely YOU HAVE. Secondly, let the person disappoint you first stop asking age old questions about their past after all; you are trying to build something new that you've never done before, so don't worry about what he did to Shinka-Shay. Let Pookie show you something different.
Whether any of you want to admit it or not, you've all had a hoe moment and if you haven't, it is headed to a life near you. If you never got that chance to have "hoe moment" you'll mess around and have that hoe moment when you need to have that husband/wife moment.---I'm not married, I'm Jess Sayin'...The facts are the #1 reason for divorce is infidelity and this is my theory on why it happens since no one else can seem to provide insight...but hey, what do I know....I'm Jess Sayin'!