Sooo I've let go of quite a few friendships and the older I get.. the more irritated I become with foolish friendships. The reason I'm choosing to write about this is because I Jess might help some of you all out with a certain somebody that is jess dead weight. Friendship.
Friendship is defined according to My iPhone as a mutual trust and support between allies.. Hmm. Trust. AND Support. When you think of your Bestfran or even a good girlfriend do u trust her/him with information? Do you have that friend that you don't expect to support, the one that can be easily recognized versus the ones that do? Yes? Ok, so I Jess want to know why we Jess don't cut these people off.. K Camp said it.. "It ain't nothing to cut that !! Off " and well sometimes [Many Times for me Jess Sayin..] ratchet music makes sense.
This year I personally had to decide to cut off a relationship with a really good friend and while it felt like a bad break up--- I'm clear on where me and these people stand and Jess to be transparent..I am referencing more than one friendship that has fallen apart so don't read this thinking its about any particular person..KTHANKSBYE..the facts are, while we may not be "friend friends" we are grown enough to respect each other if we are ever in the same space and/or if we see each other on the side of the road I'd hope they would call someone to help me even if they didn't stop LOL [Im Jess Being Honest]. I don't expect miracles but if you see me le struggling..come on bro help me out.
ANY-TO-THE WAY.... Losing friends can be hard, but jess think about it like this, if you have those awkward moments with this person they probably are not your friend anyway. If you have to tell different versions of a story omitting certain details because you can't trust this person they maybe shouldn't be told the story.. they are not your friend--[I'm Jess Sayin], there is a difference between sparing details and jess intentionally not telling someone something.
The word "friend" is thrown on everything..and I jess have been IG surfing and its so entertaining when you know Ratchet 1 and Ratchet 2 aren't really friends but taking pictures talking about A1 since Day 1! Oh ok so were you guys friends when she... Called you a garden tool and tried to hook you up? [I'm Jess Askin'] ..Let me sip some damn tea before I catch some SHADE FLU
I know losing friends or realizing that a friendship is over can be difficult, but understand sometimes you have to be selfish with yourself. You have think about what the person is actually doing to help you? Is it an honest friendship? When I tell my friends certain stories or venting sessions my expectation is that they will respect the boundaries of that and if you can't count on someone I mean honestly.. really..what is their purpose in your life? [I'm Jess Sayin]..
But once again... I'm don't know shit...I'm Jess Sayin!!
This year I personally had to decide to cut off a relationship with a really good friend and while it felt like a bad break up--- I'm clear on where me and these people stand and Jess to be transparent..I am referencing more than one friendship that has fallen apart so don't read this thinking its about any particular person..KTHANKSBYE..the facts are, while we may not be "friend friends" we are grown enough to respect each other if we are ever in the same space and/or if we see each other on the side of the road I'd hope they would call someone to help me even if they didn't stop LOL [Im Jess Being Honest]. I don't expect miracles but if you see me le struggling..come on bro help me out.
ANY-TO-THE WAY.... Losing friends can be hard, but jess think about it like this, if you have those awkward moments with this person they probably are not your friend anyway. If you have to tell different versions of a story omitting certain details because you can't trust this person they maybe shouldn't be told the story.. they are not your friend--[I'm Jess Sayin], there is a difference between sparing details and jess intentionally not telling someone something.
The word "friend" is thrown on everything..and I jess have been IG surfing and its so entertaining when you know Ratchet 1 and Ratchet 2 aren't really friends but taking pictures talking about A1 since Day 1! Oh ok so were you guys friends when she... Called you a garden tool and tried to hook you up? [I'm Jess Askin'] ..Let me sip some damn tea before I catch some SHADE FLU
I know losing friends or realizing that a friendship is over can be difficult, but understand sometimes you have to be selfish with yourself. You have think about what the person is actually doing to help you? Is it an honest friendship? When I tell my friends certain stories or venting sessions my expectation is that they will respect the boundaries of that and if you can't count on someone I mean honestly.. really..what is their purpose in your life? [I'm Jess Sayin]..
But once again... I'm don't know shit...I'm Jess Sayin!!
Jess this was a great post. I agree that the older we become the more intentional we have to be about who we allow in our lives.. Some people Jess don't deserve our time!!
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