Jess Recognize The Bad Friends and Let Them Go

What's Poppin' !

Sooo I've let go of quite a few friendships and the older I get.. the more irritated I become with foolish friendships. The reason I'm choosing to write about this is because I Jess might help some of you all out with a certain somebody that is jess dead weight. Friendship.

 Friendship is defined according to My iPhone as a mutual trust and support between allies.. Hmm. Trust. AND Support. When you think of your Bestfran or even a good girlfriend do u trust her/him with information? Do you have that friend that you don't expect to support, the one that can be easily recognized versus the ones that do? Yes? Ok, so I Jess want to know why we Jess don't cut these people off.. K Camp said it.. "It ain't nothing to cut that !! Off " and well sometimes [Many Times for me Jess Sayin..] ratchet music makes sense.
This year I personally had to decide to cut off a relationship with a really good friend and while it felt like a bad break up--- I'm clear on where me and these people stand and Jess to be transparent..I am referencing more than one friendship that has fallen apart so don't read this thinking its about any particular person..KTHANKSBYE..the facts are, while we may not be "friend friends" we are grown enough to respect each other if we are ever in the same space and/or if we see each other on the side of the road I'd hope they would call someone to help me even if they didn't stop LOL [Im Jess Being Honest]. I don't expect miracles but if you see me le struggling..come on bro help me out.

 ANY-TO-THE WAY.... Losing friends can be hard, but jess think about it like this, if you have those awkward moments with this person they probably are not your friend anyway. If you have to tell different versions of a story omitting certain details because you can't trust this person they maybe shouldn't be told the story.. they are not your friend--[I'm Jess Sayin], there is a difference between sparing details and jess intentionally not telling someone something.
 The word "friend" is thrown on everything..and I jess have been IG surfing and its so entertaining when you know Ratchet 1 and Ratchet 2 aren't really friends but taking pictures talking about A1 since Day 1! Oh ok so were you guys friends when she... Called you a garden tool and tried to hook you up? [I'm Jess Askin'] ..Let me sip some damn tea before I catch some SHADE FLU

I know losing friends or realizing that a friendship is over can be difficult, but understand sometimes you have to be selfish with yourself. You have think about what the person is actually doing to help you? Is it an honest friendship? When I tell my friends certain stories or venting sessions my expectation is that they will respect the boundaries of that and if you can't count on someone I mean honestly.. really..what is their purpose in your life? [I'm Jess Sayin].. 
But once again... I'm don't know shit...I'm Jess Sayin!! 

 

They Don't Heal...Men Jess Hoe

What's poppin!!!!! So I was listening to the old folk radio a few weeks ago [I can't take y'all hippidy hop music sometimes] and as I'm movin' and groovin' to the late great Michael Jackson, the DJ comes back on to discuss a gentleman by the name of Steven James Dixon who happens to be discussing his new book entitled "Men Don't Heal We Ho" NOW I'm not promoting his book I Jess thought it was an interesting title that I happen to agree with.. So on that note, I'm feelin' it... Dixon however takes a few different angles...."A boy never seeing his mom experience true love as a child".. [blah blah blah] he speaks about the emotional instability of men....how y'all never "heal from one situation before jumping into another"....[Jess A Disclaimer:I haven't read the book so I can't attack this man...but I've got a few theories of my own] So here I go...Men don't heal simply because they don't want to. Yeah, I'm sure it has everything to do with his psyche and all that other jazz but it is Jess that simple; y'all don't heal because you don't want to. Why? Numero 1: It is Jess easier....why not have a wife, main chick, side chick, and a few baby mamas who all satisfy you in different ways? There are 84,000 more females than males in Chicago ALONE....that is more than 5% more chicks than guys...SO BASICALLY THEY HAVE OPTIONS....I'm not sayin' it is fair...I'm Jess sayin' it is what it is...
Numero 2 :. They are still scarred from their very first heart breaking relationship and they refuse to deal with it EVER... Numero 3: I'm sure quite popular and most accurate, some of y'all Jess hoe because you can. You've never been wronged. You've never dealt with heartache. You Jess enjoy the idea of having whatever you want when you want.[Jess Nasty]

For the man that believes it is Jess easy, it is not that you don't want to be faithful or that you don't know how to be faithful you Jess have it way too easy and jess do it and quite honestly..the chicks you pull should have stayed a secret..[Jess Sayin] You baggin' chicks but they aren't exactly the most easy on the eyes! [BUT SHE GOT BODY BRO]But that makes you the shit right? Nah bruh bruh... I mean I'm sure if there were 84,000 more males than females it would be the same thing.... But y'all Jess got lucky is all. It is like you all won a hidden treasure but everything that you find isn't going to shine like gold or silver trust there are a few copper pennies in that number...

For Pook-Pook that is Jess soooo heartbroken about Chardonn'asia cheating on you...Please do me a favor and take that man cry somewhere else please man up! Y'all give women shit all day long about being an angry woman and carrying the trust issues from her last relationship into her new relationship but y'all won't even face the facts that some of you guys do it too. Every girl isn't the same and every girl isn't a heart breaker. DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY WOMEN WANT TO BE MARRIED?? DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY WANT TO REPRODUCE Y'ALL BAD ASS KIDS??? She is out there for you.... Jess stop using the same story  about catching your 9th grade girlfriend behind the bleachers  as an excuse to get the pannies...COME ON...Pook you are 30+ GROW A PAIR!! [I'm Jess Being Honest] Don't be a whore on the account that you don't want to face the facts of being a teenager..[GETTING REJECTED]. Although men don't change too much from high school and college..there is SOME growth..LOL So Jess think about how much a woman may have grown too..LOL


Lastly, Sweet Baby Jesus in a small tiny blanket, if I have to hear that you hoe because you can be one more time!!!! BE A HOE.. TEACH OTHER Weirdos how to be a hoe...Jess do it with some class! Y'all Jess pick the first thing that walks and says she has a job and no kids...I bet you didn't verify where she works...you'll end up with a street walker...[Jess Sayin] I bet you ain't ask to see how she is living?? You show up to the crib for the first time and end up on her air mattress at the end of the night! LMAO Jess no class...No class at all! I'm Jess asking  for y'all to have some morals... I can't convince y'all not to be hoes...Jess be a hoe, but be a honest hoe. Shoot now-a-days some women sign up to be the side piece... They don't mind playing second , third, or fourth to shinka-shay... I'm Jess Sayin' that y'all aren't out here innocent...

I'm not on here to tell y'all how to live. In fact, I could really care less about your hoe-ism I Jess know what I know, y'all don't ever "heal" from previous relationships...you Jess move on to the next one and Hoe. Y'all don't take accountability in the rehabilitation process at all...All Sweet Box isn't good Sweet Box.. All chicks that can cook aren't meant to be your boo and Jess because she has good Peruvian body wave hair doesn't mean she has it together either! Many males between 23-32 years old are grinding. I get that. Thinking about careers and "making" it happen for themselves, but in the meantime y'all Jess hoe and while you all are busy sticking the peanut brittle where ever you are passing up all the girls that could be with you through the grind... Only thirsty and ignorant females can't respect and understand the "grind" of getting your life together. Honestly, you should be grinding together that way it is understood... Meanwhile we all know the double standard exists, I couldn't tell a chick to Hoe...Although there are phases called the Hoe Moment...But I'm Jess Sayin that is for another blog another day! Anyway, I don't know shit..I'm Jess Talking Shit... I'm JESS SAYIN... Keep it classy...HOE [HA]