I'm Jess Tired

As I sit here on my lunch break. I can barely see straight. I can barely comprehend why. Why? Why must we debate the majority so that they understand this form of terrorism can not be ignored. Yes this is my rant but I Jess can not stomach to keep silent. I'm Jess Tired 

I've been working on the relaunch of my blog and while I'd rather NOT post I will NOT Jess stay silent. Killed. 9. killed and we want to call this idiot mentally Ill for so long we've made excuses for racist behavior. Im Jess tired. 9, African American innocent people were murdered in cold blood because "He had to"; a 21 year old DEMON enters a church and kills because "he had to". But when an African American HAD TO sell lose cigarettes to make money for his family he was killed, when Trayvon Martin HAD TO have on a hoody because I do believe it was raining he was shot and killed when Mike Brown HAD TO walk away he was shot and killed. But this little shit gets to say he's mentally Ill. FUCK that and excuse my French it's a lot in this post [Im Jess Sayin]..

What makes this most sickening is that we want to make this about gun control, as I was listening to the radio they kept saying this is a gun control issue...word? We want to make this about Gun Control and mental Illness? Nah,this is about HATE, hate of a race that even when people of color are good enough shuck and jive and entertain you jerks you still manage to remain ignorant in things like this that should require compassion and sympathy! Let's Jess put race aside for one real quick second-- these innocent victims are someone's mother, son, sister, husband, wife, & grandmother .. Can you imagine losing your praying grandmother in church??? Jess think about that! 

Having a gun was something he decided. He decided to sit there while these people had church and then decided he HAD TO.. So that also means if he didn't have a gun he could have done anything he HAD TO to save his country. Now don't get it twisted he's definitely sick, but one thing Jess needs to be clear..CRYSTAL clear..this is a hate crime and NO amended gun law would have stopped someone like this. No medicine can control HATE that's in someone's head and heart. [I'm Jess Sayin] 

As a Black woman, don't tell me or anyone else to be quiet or mindful of what and how we say it. FUCK your feelings and stop asking why we are angry and look at the facts, because everyday WE HAVE to deal with different shit that some will never understand and [I'm Jess Tired] some wouldn't last a DAY in our most successful shoes. Many will never "get" this-- it's never been about the color of our skin to us, but we've had to fight our whole life to prove that we are equal and damn it we are Jess tired! Stop asking why we are angry. Stop asking us to get over something that happened years ago because you want us to forgive and forget yet you have a 21 year old shooting up sanctuaries because of a Old ass HATE mentality. He didn't come up with that on his own..he was made to believe that this was what he HAD TO do because this was learned behavior from somewhere.

So while you see an African American just know we are fucking tired and HAVE TO continue to stand up for ourselves. We are tired of being told to suck it up or what's a hate crime and what's not, because those that have the loudest opinion don't HAVE TO be black and WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND, don't discredit us with your bullshit opinion about gun control and mental illness when innocent lives were lost because a man was welcomed in a place of safety. Lastly don't tell me you understand because you don't; this system wasn't set up for us to be successful but now that we have figured it out and we don't need validation. 

This is craziness he wanted to kill a praying community in their place of peace. Then we have others who Jess don't get it but coincidencely enough we are wanted so people can jail us, kill us, and accuse us of pulling the race card. [I'm Jess Sayin].. I'm Jess tired of black African Americans AND people of color being discredited for our pain. I'm Jess tired of answering questions for others that claim they don't understand; read this no person of color is the spokesperson and wants to keep explain something that should be so painfully obvious yet I've read so many articles making this about mental illness and gun control. I'm not asking for sympathy. I'm Jess asking for a change in thought, a change in a mentality.. There are Jess so many angry emotions for those that don't even TRY TO UNDERSTAND, please do not discredit our feelings or people that are different than you ..it's still happening and if we can atleast get some of you to understand this isn't based on opinion but FACTS we might be headed in a better direction. 

I'm done. I'm Jess Tired. 

May the families of the 9 Victims never lose faith in Our Lord and Savior. My prayers go out to you all and I ask my followers to remember that a praying community can make a difference. Let this event not discourage our faith in God. I'm grateful to know God and it is in his name that these 9 our now in his loving arms. Amen.. 

Matthew 5:4 

-Jess Sayin

Why I'm Jess Sayin: Behind The Posts

What's Poppin!!!! So first of all let me jess ask, did y'all miss me?? [Or Naw?] Well I hope your answer was yes! So I realize I took some time off, but jess know it was for the best. I literally have been learning a new job all while NOW [1 year later] going through a company transformation... My life is jess a cluster, but that is jess what life is about...Organized chaos! So boom check it, I got asked a while ago why I blog, so I thought this might be a great way to get my JessSayin readers, family , and folks that are jess here to hate [HA] back on board-- this posts for you! I promise this won't be a sad ass story, I jess ain't here for that nor do I care to write a sad ass Jess Sayin prose on my inspiration.

 OK so, here it is, my inspiration literally comes from the stuff I see everyday. Guys & Gals life is so "bloggable" [I jess made that word up], when I see things that look, feel, or is shady I jess remember so i can talk about y'all later (in a funny way) I don't spread the business [I'm a trusted confidant, Jess Sayin]. Blogging does not have to be politically correct and that is what I am going for! I don't have to say the things you want me to say or even care about what anyone thinks of my writing style. Yes, I'm educated, yes I have a whole degree in ...but can i jess say; act, and do what I want here? I created this space for that very reason to be jess who I want to be. So know that what I write about isn't false. It mainly is jess my opinion which I am allow to have [Jess Sayin]...
So enjoy the ride folks I'm here to stay as always ...I'm Jess Sayin!

I Jess Wish Y'all Weren't So Stupid

What's Poppin!!!
 So, I have been seeing some foolery to the tenth power! I'm Jess Sayin--I can no longer be silent! We live in a meme, Youtube, Instagram fame whore society. From "I'm legally blind I can not see..P.O.P. hol it down" to Peaches Monroe who is "On fleek"?? I'm still lost with that one but whatever! Everyday there is some new Insta fame, [the birds are chirpin' good morning to you] I can keep going but what I am most especially tired of is the Insta-models that are certified expired warrantied---HOES... [I'm Jess Sayin], I'm exhausted by their "fake" appeal and their addiction to attention. BUT do you know what really keeps them going? YOUR DUMB ASS...[HUH?] Yes, all of you that continuously glorify theses women AND men. No clue what I'm talking about? So for example, If she can sit her ASS on a bathroom counter and I can see her lil pannies..and shes got 1039123 likes she isn't the one bruh, that can't be potential bae [HOW SWAY? HOW?] If he can proudly participate in Eggplant Friday and LOL at all the comments and thirsty emojis...that FOOL isn't the one either, if his penis print can be on the internet and he is claiming to be in a whole relationship, baby-boo it couldn't be with you, its with Instagram. So I jess wish y'all weren't so stupid...

If you think her flash back Friday picture in her t-shirt and pannies from many many weeks ago is to really jess show that she has lost weight [Side eye emoji], trust me she is screaming attention whore and [I jess wish you weren't so stupid]. I don't give a damn if this person can cook, sew, make a baby, and work a full time job, and save your animal from a burning building...Yes, girl--I'm calling you a hoe Yes, boy--I'm calling you a very parched man and slightly tambourine-ish [yes tambourine-ish]. I think for a man to post body parts on the internet and you aren't a body builder/trainer/REAL underwear model--you're sketchy bro, it doesn't take a picture of your penis online to get girls...action speaks louder than Penis..I'm Jess Sayin, check out Y'all Jess Lyin' I've written about this before!Anywho, while those thirst trappers may not "get it" but you YES you person reading this post jess don't be stupid and fall for it, what you see is what you get!

 This is coming from a place of Jess Sayin--not love because I don't know ya like [LOL].I jess want to put it in perspective for y'all and this is going to sound very old school but when your kids get older how are you going to explain your dick print on the internet daddy? You are not Kim Kardashian-West Mom why are your tatas online but you were saying you were tired from a long day of work? [I'm Jess Asking] is that a conversation you want to have with your child? I'm jess asking and pleading that you stop making these insta-models and craig list killers your "MCM or WCW" because women and men holler that they want respect but in the same breathe will holler empowerment and that is jess some Bullshii, what about your breast or penis show empowerment or the default "its jess "art"? I'm not saying stop perming your hair, stop wearing deodorant, and stop shaving under our arms because [that is jess nasty] I'm jess sayin, stop justifying foolery and stop praising these thotties! Have you ever noticed someone that has an exclusive social media page, meaning if their picture doesn't get 100+ likes the photo magically disappears in a few days? Hmmm is that real life? Stop feeding social media egos,truth be told all that fake twerkin' they posting on the internet probably means they are boring in them sheets [I'm Jess Sayin] ... But again y'all jess stop being stupid. Stop making these people Bae, Wifey, Hubby, hell many of these folks don't even deserve the title of side piece! Jess be aware and pay attention because dating all these insta-models will and can ruin relationships that these people shouldn't have been in to begin with!


But again, Y'all know the drill... I don't know Shiii... I'm Jess Sayin!!! Until next time folks!!!

A Moment of Silence...for the Hoe Moment

What's Poppinnn!!!! So, I'm jess going to hop right into the topic for the evening...I have been holding on to this post for a very long time. I wasn't sure if it was something I wanted to even discuss because more times than not women are exploited; however, the gig is up. We have been exposed and after all damn it I'm Jess Sayin! I'm sure a lot of ladies may feel some type of way about this post; but unfortunately, I don't write about shit that everyone likes. No exceptions. So let's talk about this hoe moment, like any other thing that I claim; I try to back it up. I believe that every girl has [had] a hoe phase. [SAY WHAT!?] YUP!
Where do I begin [sigh] because we[women] are all so complicated, it takes us a moment to have our "hoe-piphany" (The realization that you potentially lived or participated in the HOE realm during some point of your adult life). Most times you reflect on your moment after the alleged hoe phase is over, you could be in this phase for a very long time and not even realize it! 

[Jess A Disclaimer]

...Hoe phases vary based on the chick. I'm not saying all women are Hoes. Every girl hasn't slept around, smashed the homies, or been a total tramp; but every girl has done her dirt. #FACT. Sorry ladies! Truth is truth and I can't expose men and not expose us too! [I Jess Don't Roll Like That ]

[A Hoe Moment is simply, a time in your life when you jess didn't really care. PERIOD.]

 There are a variety of reasons why many have their hoe moments. I'll explain the most common type of hoe phases.. Type1: Sheltered Shakeykey Type 2: Free Fio-Nicka, and Type 3: Angry Anju'wanay (it's French) LMAO 

Type 1: Sheltered Shakeykey type, probably grew up in a well-to-do home. Shakeykey was in the choir, had very strict rules, and probably wasn't exposed to many things as a child or a teenager. Well hunny when Shakeykey gets that first taste of freedom she can either balance it or she can jess go buck wild! Shakeykey types are sensitive though...she usually calms down after her first Facebook, frat house, or gossip girl  scandal. Eventually, she calms all the way down. Sheltered Shakeykey can be tamed once she's in a relationship; however, she probably won't look back at her "hoe moment" until shes happy in her relationship praying to sweet baby Jesus that her secrets aren't ever exposed. [Jess Be Like That Sometimes.. The Worry Be Real]

Sheltered Shakeykey either comes clean to the boo about her girl gone wild moment[s] or jess throws that shit in the closet hoping nobody reveals her skeletons...But lets be real, we've all learned the hard way: omitting is jess as bad as a lying. [Jess Keep It Real] 

Type 2: Free Fio-Nicka type could have been one of those girls that was captain of the chess team, all American player,  and had the perfect high school relationship! Oh yeah she was probably voted most likely to succeed and could have been prom queen; she was the shit! Oh but deep down Fio-nicka is tired of being in the spotlight! No matter how her relationship ended this girl is finally "free" of commitment. 

 Fio is jess getting her life, she has been with the same guy for so long she is jess fine with exploring all her options! She is on some Dora the explorer! She is discovering what all the hype is about with the single life and to be quite frank "she loves this shit!" [in my August Alsina voice]! This type of girl literally is jess enjoying without regret. There isn't anything wrong with enjoying, jess be careful! [STDs don't know you by name boo] While Fio-Nicka is enjoying herself many around are like what is she on? She jess busy getting her life. Now, Fio-nicka isn't necessarily out here being a garden tool (hoe) and by that I mean adding up her body count although there are some chicks like that...Fio could have a roster and things. She could be a pimp.. She could be a sex worker. Each case is different.  Yeah-- not condoning or judging Jess Sayin she does exist and her multiple personalities!

Of course, Type 3 the "angry woman" Angry Anju'wanay who we will call NayNay for short. She has been cheated

on, lied to, mistreated, and damn it she has decided she is jess going to "do her" --whatever that ever meant! Chile NayNay is jess tired and doesn't care about the judgment or the whispers. This type of woman is in a space where she obviously been threw some real shit...but because she has been done so wrong by a few knuckle heads she jess does a total 180 and plans her hoe moment... Does it possibly give her a name? Sure. NayNay is not worried. In fact she feels entitled to have this moment of sexual liberation.

Every woman has a right to have a "moment". Why? Because some men have moments for 365 days, years, decades, and centuries! So I'm pretty sure you can forgive our garden tools ways as we forgive you all [men]. Women do most things based off of how we feel: curiosity, emotion, or unconcerned with opinions....

Ladies, are you pissed because the verdict is out (I can guarantee I'm not the first to say it) or agreeing silently? I bet...none of you will comment with what type of phase you went through though...[Jess Sayin]


Y'all can shake your head in disagreement or in disgust. Y'all know it is true! Have a moment of silence for the hoe moment...As always, I don't know shit... [I'm Jess Sayin] 

They Don't Heal...Men Jess Hoe

What's poppin!!!!! So I was listening to the old folk radio a few weeks ago [I can't take y'all hippidy hop music sometimes] and as I'm movin' and groovin' to the late great Michael Jackson, the DJ comes back on to discuss a gentleman by the name of Steven James Dixon who happens to be discussing his new book entitled "Men Don't Heal We Ho" NOW I'm not promoting his book I Jess thought it was an interesting title that I happen to agree with.. So on that note, I'm feelin' it... Dixon however takes a few different angles...."A boy never seeing his mom experience true love as a child".. [blah blah blah] he speaks about the emotional instability of men....how y'all never "heal from one situation before jumping into another"....[Jess A Disclaimer:I haven't read the book so I can't attack this man...but I've got a few theories of my own] So here I go...Men don't heal simply because they don't want to. Yeah, I'm sure it has everything to do with his psyche and all that other jazz but it is Jess that simple; y'all don't heal because you don't want to. Why? Numero 1: It is Jess easier....why not have a wife, main chick, side chick, and a few baby mamas who all satisfy you in different ways? There are 84,000 more females than males in Chicago ALONE....that is more than 5% more chicks than guys...SO BASICALLY THEY HAVE OPTIONS....I'm not sayin' it is fair...I'm Jess sayin' it is what it is...
Numero 2 :. They are still scarred from their very first heart breaking relationship and they refuse to deal with it EVER... Numero 3: I'm sure quite popular and most accurate, some of y'all Jess hoe because you can. You've never been wronged. You've never dealt with heartache. You Jess enjoy the idea of having whatever you want when you want.[Jess Nasty]

For the man that believes it is Jess easy, it is not that you don't want to be faithful or that you don't know how to be faithful you Jess have it way too easy and jess do it and quite honestly..the chicks you pull should have stayed a secret..[Jess Sayin] You baggin' chicks but they aren't exactly the most easy on the eyes! [BUT SHE GOT BODY BRO]But that makes you the shit right? Nah bruh bruh... I mean I'm sure if there were 84,000 more males than females it would be the same thing.... But y'all Jess got lucky is all. It is like you all won a hidden treasure but everything that you find isn't going to shine like gold or silver trust there are a few copper pennies in that number...

For Pook-Pook that is Jess soooo heartbroken about Chardonn'asia cheating on you...Please do me a favor and take that man cry somewhere else please man up! Y'all give women shit all day long about being an angry woman and carrying the trust issues from her last relationship into her new relationship but y'all won't even face the facts that some of you guys do it too. Every girl isn't the same and every girl isn't a heart breaker. DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY WOMEN WANT TO BE MARRIED?? DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY WANT TO REPRODUCE Y'ALL BAD ASS KIDS??? She is out there for you.... Jess stop using the same story  about catching your 9th grade girlfriend behind the bleachers  as an excuse to get the pannies...COME ON...Pook you are 30+ GROW A PAIR!! [I'm Jess Being Honest] Don't be a whore on the account that you don't want to face the facts of being a teenager..[GETTING REJECTED]. Although men don't change too much from high school and college..there is SOME growth..LOL So Jess think about how much a woman may have grown too..LOL


Lastly, Sweet Baby Jesus in a small tiny blanket, if I have to hear that you hoe because you can be one more time!!!! BE A HOE.. TEACH OTHER Weirdos how to be a hoe...Jess do it with some class! Y'all Jess pick the first thing that walks and says she has a job and no kids...I bet you didn't verify where she works...you'll end up with a street walker...[Jess Sayin] I bet you ain't ask to see how she is living?? You show up to the crib for the first time and end up on her air mattress at the end of the night! LMAO Jess no class...No class at all! I'm Jess asking  for y'all to have some morals... I can't convince y'all not to be hoes...Jess be a hoe, but be a honest hoe. Shoot now-a-days some women sign up to be the side piece... They don't mind playing second , third, or fourth to shinka-shay... I'm Jess Sayin' that y'all aren't out here innocent...

I'm not on here to tell y'all how to live. In fact, I could really care less about your hoe-ism I Jess know what I know, y'all don't ever "heal" from previous relationships...you Jess move on to the next one and Hoe. Y'all don't take accountability in the rehabilitation process at all...All Sweet Box isn't good Sweet Box.. All chicks that can cook aren't meant to be your boo and Jess because she has good Peruvian body wave hair doesn't mean she has it together either! Many males between 23-32 years old are grinding. I get that. Thinking about careers and "making" it happen for themselves, but in the meantime y'all Jess hoe and while you all are busy sticking the peanut brittle where ever you are passing up all the girls that could be with you through the grind... Only thirsty and ignorant females can't respect and understand the "grind" of getting your life together. Honestly, you should be grinding together that way it is understood... Meanwhile we all know the double standard exists, I couldn't tell a chick to Hoe...Although there are phases called the Hoe Moment...But I'm Jess Sayin that is for another blog another day! Anyway, I don't know shit..I'm Jess Talking Shit... I'm JESS SAYIN... Keep it classy...HOE [HA]

Its The Year Of The Side Chicks: Y'all Jess Might Be Winning!

Whats poppin y'all!!!! Happy New Year and all that other jazz! Took some time off [yeah I know I ain't shit] Get over it but... I'M BACK! Anyway, y'all been acting a fool since my last post, I've been observing and man you all have given me more to write about than I can ever imagine! I'm jess sayin y'all been cutting up especially you side chicks! I mean the entitlement is real, you all went from being a well-kept secret to entertaining the fact that you are legitimately okay with being someone's side dish instead of the 4-course meal and to me chile that is jess crazy! I'm mean you side hussies been going hard in 2013 and have continued in 2014--y'all jess might be winning!!! Now the side chick contamination isn't new, there are plenty of old heauxs; but now that we have Ratchet Monday Love and Hip Hop, Mary Jane Tuesdays, and lastly the all mighty Scandalous Thursdays you heauxs have really been given LIFE! [SMH] Y'all jess parade around as if it is normal to be the work ford pick up truck instead of the luxury e-class Benz! However, I'm going to have to give it to y'all you scally muffins are winning! [Yasss *Does A Weave Pat*] .....at least on TV you are so let me ask you this; how was the side chick Thanksgiving, side chick Christmas, or side chick New Years? What did king bae bring you? [AW] Did your resolutions involve "Being so done with him"? [Yeah...I bet]...

As much as I hate to admit it, I must give the TV side chicks a [fake] round of applause. Love and Hip Hop got side chicks becoming side wives..Mary Jane got him proposing before he is even divorced and Ms. Pope is getting houses in Vermont from the President! While this is reality television many of you somehow believe that your suitor will be leaving his committed situation because it happens on TV; but again I ask you Shinkneesha how was your holidays with the bae? Don't worry I'll jess wait right here for your story! [RIGHT] NOW...Back to the wayward  "winners" of 2014, don't ever think for a moment that jess because you get dinner, movies, side chicks gifts, a little quality time, and because you possibly spend the night that he is going to leave his life to be with you. The most bizarre aspect of the situation is some of you are FAITHFUL side hoes to these men because you believe he will one day leave his situation for you. [Jess Silly] NEWS FLASH...nobody leaves a California King bed to go sleep in a Twin Sized bed permanently it jess doesn't happen and if it does it probably doesn't last long.

Now I love me some Mary Jane Olivia Pope acting--but these women don't exist in this shit we call real ass life and if they do they are low key and paid well to be quiet mistresses, I don't condone the side chick life LET ME SAY THAT AGAIN I don't condone the side chick life but if you are going to do it--don't do it for a date at TGIFridays and a pair of Aldo Platform nude pumps I'm Jess Sayin, you're worth more or maybe not...!
 Olivia Pope is sleeping with the president for crying out loud y'all heauxs be sleeping with BoodaMane of Get Money ENT this is NOT the same thing hunny boo boo child! You are losing!!! What is the purpose of the side chick movement, so you can remove the hashtag #Teamsingle  and replace it with #Itakeyourman on your social media profiles? Hunny I'm sure he isn't even worth it. In fact, I can guarantee he isn't worth it. No sex can be that amazing that you can't let it go...LET IT GO..that male body part does not even belong to you! We get so wrapped up in social media that we tend to forget that you can't really use Mary Jane as an explanation of why you decided to be a real life hoe. Nor can you use celebrities and their "announced drama" as legit leverage that it is Okay either. You are not dating Ludacris or Dwayne Wade--and even then we don't know the whole story.. Lastly, think about this is the man even worth it? Most men, that are about that commitment life don't have time for your leather leggings and faux eyelashes... their jess isn't enough time in their life. Most men don't even have enough time to please the one woman they have so why in the world would they want more than one??
Y'all also tend to forget about that B-word Karma...ever met her..yeah I heard she plays no games...Jess keep on tryna make it to the side chick Winter Olympics I'm sure you all will meet... Jess keep playing yourself...

[Jess Sayin Disclaimer]

  NOW before someone tries to go all "devils advocate" on me.. Men, no they are not off the hook--but this post isn't for them, its about the women that don't have enough self control to tell these involved dudes no...and it is jess that simple. They will have their day in Jess Sayin Court but until then, please don't get all in your feelings and come for me Jess let me rock!

But again, I don't know much.... I'm Jess Sayin!
 

This Jess isn't Going To work...

Have you ever wondered about that one date that jess didn't make it after a first or second time? Or why you never make it past dating...to actually being in a relationship? Have you ever stopped to think..DAMN, I must be hitting one of those deal breakers. A lot of times when dating it seems that people eliminate themselves without even knowing it! So I asked around jess because I'm curious but ladies and gents..here are some of the ways you maybe eliminating yourself..
Many people gave me the common deal breakers: liars, untrustworthy, no jobs, ugly. ..etc All of the traits we expect! Although, I'm sure some people may not know that they are ugly HA [I'm petty] But there were some clear hilarious deal breakers which I believe are important to share...one that had me laughing until tears was... jess make sure the person has teeth doesn't matter how many jess making sure they have them. Hilarious. Of course the more realistic deal breaker list includes Hygiene. This is such an important deal breaker; if you take a shit...Please throw some water on that ass.. if you have dirty finger nails do not approach someone before cleaning that mess out! Funny enough men ordering a frozen margarita on a first date---is jess a big turn off; it doesn't show masculinity according to some. Speaking of being masculine---does a female ordering Erk & Jerk (E&J) make them a scally? [Jess Wondering]...Another need to know deal breaker, someone that be on that "Carl Thomas" [EMOTIONAL] a woman that whines it makes her seem immature..but a man that whines..goodness a grown ass human upset about some shit that generally isn't that serious...Bye Felicia..! This jess isn't going to work...Yes women want emotion and sensitivity but that is for the purpose of consoling chicks not for your own problems man up! Shit![Jess kidding...hehe] Another deal breaker which I actually can agree with even though it is a bit superficial; someone that doesn't match their fly--take this how you want to...but most people believe it is important that y'all look like y'all "belong" together...You can't be Grade-A filet Mignon trying  date a packof turkey bacon---it jess isn't going to work...If she/he is truly impressed at the .99 cent store...and you never even been inside the .99 cent store it jess isn't going to work!!!

 Finally, a gloray amen shout goes out to this last and final deal breaker:
Someone that can't hold an intelligent conversation; of course you can be silly--but where is your mind at? A degree definitely isn't a plus, I know a lot of dumb ass college educated people, it jess won't work if you are numb to an intelligent thought process... One person told me "I've never been attracted to dumb asses...but it is a lot of them out there..." Shame shame...hold a conversation people! While many like to accuse each other for only wanting sex are you giving this person hints? Dating is like job interviews truly--say the wrong thing and the job isn't yours..[Jess Sayin] Of course I am not saying you can avoid these deal breakers--but take note in your pattern what are you doing/saying and perhaps that is a way to analyze if you are a fudge up!
 People act like deal breakers are negotiable THEY AREN'T... so the next time you are on a date, texting, or on the phone...THINK before you speak. Are you acting like dollar store material when you believe you are Bloomingdale quality? Well act like it then! Keep those breast put away, the stretchy polyester material away for a while..matter of fact, throw that shit away!!! Men, if you work at the gas station--you better be [HGAIC] head gas attendant in charge! A woman is truly not concerned with WHERE you work..it is how you act about where you work... but don't break your pockets of course, jess show her that your job doesn't dictate your dating life style! I swear I'm jess talking from an opinion--i mostly don't know shit. I'm Jess Sayin!!! ;) Day 4!!! One more day!! Until next time!!